How to breakup with your housemates, the best way possible

At the start of January we asked about your 2015 flatshare resolutions. An overwhelming 78% of you said you wanted to move out of your current flatshare this year. Why? Some of you wanted to find a cheaper place, others wanted to find more compatible housemates and a few are hoping to rent solo or get onto the property ladder.

Those who want to get away from their current housemates told us:

“They’re too messy” 

                                             “Their habits drive me insane”

                                                                                                                  “We just don’t get on”

                        “One housemate has turned into two”

It couldn’t be clearer that many of you need to move out, pronto. There really is no time like the present so we’ve compiled some tips to help you with the inevitable; the housemate breakup.

Don’t make it personal
Strip the relationship down to basics and it’s a financial transaction between strangers. Of course it’s way more complex but if you can make it about ending the financial relationship, rather than telling someone you don’t like them, it’ll be much easier.

Show compassion
Be firm about what you need but treat the other person with respect too. If you’ve had a disagreement, try to understand the other person’s perspective. It doesn’t mean you’ll still want to live with them but, chances are, their main aim in life isn’t to wind you up – go easy on them!

Go easy
Remember most people aren’t nightmare housemates – we all behave badly from time to time, especially when we’re under pressure. Try to ease the breakup by setting a realistic move-out date so they have plenty of time to find a replacement housemate.

Don’t do it drunk
Don’t wait ‘til you’re so wound up you can’t think straight and 100% don’t do it by text or, that eternal housemate communication tool, the Post-It note on the fridge.

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Talk
The biggest weapon you have is communication. Most issues can be avoided by simply talking (preferably before your housemate moves in) so you’re both clear on what’s expected. If your expectations are wildly different it’s inevitable one of you will have an issue at some stage.

Keep talking throughout living together. If there are issues, sit down with a drink and chat about them – don’t wait ‘til you’re so angry you can’t even look at each other.

There you have it – our best advice. What would your advice be to anyone needing to break up with their housemates? Have you had a bad housemate breakup? Tell us about it – either in the comment section below or on twitter.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy New Year. Or not…

2015

If you’re like most of us, you’ll be thinking about how you can improve yourself and your lifestyle in 2015. You may want to get fitter, find a new job or perhaps even get on the property ladder. You might also have financial resolutions – to save more or to get rid of debt.

One financial resolution we’ll bet you’re not considering is to pay more rent. Yet one in four landlords plan to raise their rents in 2015. Not the news you were hoping for, is it?

Nevertheless, many of you predicted it. When we asked you what you expect to happen to your rent in 2015 here’s what you said:

37% thought it would go up by more than 3%
13% said up by less than 3%
29% expected it to stay the same
An optimistic 22% thought their rent would go down

In reality, the news isn’t all bad. Over half (55%) of landlords won’t be increasing rents this year and 5% will even lower them.

What worries us though, is the threat that rents could rise by more than 3%. In 2014 average UK room rents rose 8%, from £505 to £546. If rents rise by 8% again next year, that will mean an extra £44 a month.

This is something you’ve told us you simply can’t afford – more than half (56%) of you say you’d be forced to find alternative, cheaper accommodation if your rent went up by up to £40 per month.

So what can you do if your rent does go up?

If your landlord suggests a rent rise that you don’t think is justified or your can’t afford:

Check your contract. If it’s a fixed term contract and the fixed-term isn’t up, the landlord isn’t allowed to increase the rent, unless there’s a clause stating so.

Negotiate. This could be an ideal opportunity to negotiate with your landlord. Perhaps ask for bills to be included in the rent or for property improvements. You can’t lose anything by asking.

Are you expecting your rents to increase? What will you do? Tell us